Anytime you are angry, you are also emotionally hurt.
Anger is the top layer of emotion that buries the hurt. It’s easier to be angry, because then we don’t have to admit our hurt.
Oftentimes, we deny that we are hurting, because to admit hurt is to admit vulnerability. Admitting vulnerability to others can create an opportunity for rejection. Rejection is emotionally hurtful.
If we feel hurt, then why do we also feel angry?
Hurt is accompanied by anger, because anger is our defense mechanism, our ego protector. Anger is our anti-hero, albeit a violent and destructive hero.
Conclusion
The next time you feel angry, seek to connect with your ‘hurt’, so you can understand how and why you are hurt. Once you understand how you are hurt, then you can begin a plan to heal the hurt.
Once you are healed of a particular emotional hurt, then the associated anger will disappear, too, which will make room for positive emotions like peace and joy.
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