The See-Saw of Self-Worth: Finding Your Balance

Self-worth is like a see-saw.

Like the see-saw is fixed firmly into the ground, your self-worth is firmly fixed/integrated into your psyche; therefore, you can’t lose it.

Like the see-saw can go up and down, your self-worth can go up and down.

Unlike the see-saw, which is made to go up and down, it is ideal for your self-worth to stay balanced in the middle where assertiveness and an egalitarian mindset reside.

How do you maintain balance? Balance is achieved via self-awareness, personal choice, goal-setting, and practice.

Caveat – Narcissists also have a low self-worth; however, they deny their feelings of low self-worth and choose to avoid negative feelings by exaggerating self-importance, which is called ‘arrogance’.

People who are subservient believe they can feel ‘validated self-worth’ by being passive and submissive, while people who are narcissistic believe they can feel ‘validated self-worth’ by being dominate and abusive.

People who are egalitarian-minded don’t worry about getting their self-worth validated, because they are self-validating and assert their wants and desires in an emotionally healthy way. Egalitarian-minded people also don’t feel a loss of self-worth when they are rejected, unlike the narcissists and the subservient-minded.

Balance exists where self-confidence, self-love, self-respect, and self-acceptance are found and when they are acquired.

Mental Health Therapy is a good way to learn how to obtain the elements of well-being that lead to balance.

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